To Eat or Not to Eat

I've seen a lot of posts that read along the lines of, "Skinny girl problems..." and people commenting such hate on them. There should not be any hate towards people who are skinny. In fact, there shouldn't be hate on somebody who society deems "fat" or anyone in general. Why do we feel the need to troll the internet looking for such openings to exploit people? We are all entitled to our opinion, yes. That is our right since birth. But, we have to learn to exercise self control. We all judge. All of us. You could be reading this at home and shaking your head, "That isn't me." But it is. We all do it, it's human nature. So, instead of defending our innocence, lets own up to it. I'm not telling you to stop judging people because you can't, especially in a society like ours. I'm just suggesting that you take a step back and look at whats deeper than the surface. 

Yes, you judged someone. Accept it. You thought that person was too fat for the tight shirt they were wearing and you laughed or whispered to your friend about it and pointed. Or, you made fun of someone for the way they walked, or the speed that they did things. I've had it happen to me recently, and though you tell yourself not to listen to the whispering, it's probably about someone else...it isn't and it hurts. Even if you're whispering about something totally unrelated, the self conscious person's mind wanders. What did I do? Oh no...they're totally making fun of my makeup or lack of makeup today... You just destroyed that person's confidence that they worked so hard to build up. What do you do? Maybe walk past them and compliment them on something else that they're wearing and draw their attention away from what they're obviously self conscious about. Instead of thinking, "Man...I'm too fat for this top" they'll be thinking, "wow...my hair looks great today!" I'm not asking you to lie and sugar coat things to people, but I am asking you to be sensitive about it because there are days that you feel the exact same way whether you're willing to admit it or not. 

DO NOT BULLY. EVER. This is the golden rule, especially on the internet. ESPECIALLY ON FACEBOOK. First of all, if you're trolling behind a computer screen, do not use your real name. That is just ridiculous and you're making yourself look ignorant. I'm not hinting for you to troll at all. You shouldn't even be doing that. Stop hating on people who are skinny, showing off their bodies, have children, who are fat, who have thin hair, etc. Do not comment, "Thirsty B*tches" because someone has skimpy clothes on. Whether they want attention, or that's just how they like to dress, you shouldn't be judging them on the internet. Do it in your head. They don't need to know. You're openly destroying somebody's confidence and not everyone can move past terrible hate. If you don't like the picture, scroll past it. If they're not physically harming themselves, children, animals or anyone else, ignore it and be the bigger person. 

You didn't mean for your comment to come out that snide. Your sarcasm wasn't caught over the internet. What do you do? Apologize. Always apologize. You're not above any of that. Do not sit there and start a fight because of something YOU said. Please. Save yourself the embarrassment and trouble.

Lastly, don't sit back and let someone get hate. (I'm not talking about celebrities...they're professionals who get hate everyday but also get twice as much love.) But, if somebody comments "You look fat in that picture" you write back "You look great, don't listen to them!" Foster love and not hate. Don't spread negativity, instead take a negative situation and pour in positivity.

As always, thank you for reading. Remember, spread the love around and keep the hate to yourself.